The benefits of delayed gratification

I recently read an article regarding delayed gratification. While this term is not new to me, I never really paid much attention to it, much less meditate on the phrase.

As I continued reading the article, this person delayed signing a book contract until he felt he could get a better offer.

It worked.

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What is delayed gratification?

It  refers to the ability to put off something mildly fun or pleasurable now, in order to gain something that is more fun, pleasurable, or rewarding later.

I have six brothers and sisters.  My father worked the night shift at a factory, and my mother stayed home raising us kids.  I am sure  by reading this  you could guess  we did not have  extras. We had the basics, and we all turned out just fine.

I remember the trips to the grocery store in  the station wagon. As soon as the groceries were  out of the car and in the kitchen, we would begin eating our ¨extras.¨  We could never save a twinkie for tomorrow, as it would be gone.

I carried this habit into my adult life.  I felt  I needed to have things right away, or else they would be gone, for good.

I associated delayed gratification with poverty and going without, when in reality it is a way for you to receive the best.

Not having and waiting to have the better for your life are two very different things.

I  realized what I believed was a misconception.

Now that I have  a full understanding of this phrase, what are the benefits?

Delayed gratification produces:

  • Patience
  • Causes maturity
  • You will not be impulsive

Moreover,

  • You will  choose to invest  in yourself, and forgo the extras that come your way.
  • You can do without the goodies  that are purchased at the grocery store or the mall.
  • You can  say no to a phone call in order to listen to a webinar, read a book, or study the Bible more.
  • Your goal will be achieved quicker.
  • You will receive the better.

The best part  is  who you become in the process that is worth gold.

I am very blessed as I have an advantage. My husband supports me in my full-time ministry and in my studies, and I am very grateful to him and to God.

I trust one day  make him and my family proud, and to receive the better at the end.

What you should do while waiting

clockUpon arrival at the dentist, I was told to wait as the doctor was running behind with a patient.  The receptionist would  often say, ¨The doctor will see you soon.¨

The word  soon turned into an hour.

Time is precious, especially when one is busy.

I was prepared with kindle in purse and read for an hour.

In life, we wait for something  such as:

  • To be married
  • To have kids
  • Our big break
  • Our ministry to take off
  • To be noticed
  • Plans and projects to go through
  • and more

What about Jesus?

Jesus knew who he was, and yet He did not start his ministry until he reached the age of 30.  I think He waited  a long time to begin healing the sick, casting out demons,   and raising the dead.

Jesus did not step out of his appointed time.

Many times we want to rush into things, but there are other times where a waiting period is essential.

It´s called preparation, and key for our success.

We prepare our entire lives to begin our craft, our dream, our desire, and when we step out the first time, we fail.

Failure is essential for our  growth and learning, even though it hurts.

We get up and try again, and fail less each time.

With each failure, we learn, mature,  and gain insight into who we are and what we are made of.

We step out  yet again even if no one knows we exist.

The goal is to start and go from there.

  • In doing, we become successful.
  • In doing, we become proficient
  • In doing, we become experts
  • In doing, we find joy

Can we start and do something new and different?

Yes.  It is never too late to start pursuing your dreams.

It´s important to come to a place where you can pursue your passion, whatever that may be.  If  you start at a later time in your life  you have an advantage:  many years of preparation and life lessons which cannot be taken away from you.

While Jesus was waiting to begin His ministry, He was not wasting His time, and neither should we.

Spend your time wisely, not letting it slip out of your hands, so when the time come for you to go public, failure will be minimized and you will be noticed.

9 reasons why you should try something new

My husband and I recently began visiting our local farmers market on a regular  basis. This is something new for us, as we would purchase all our fruits and vegetables at our local grocery store.

pitahayaI noticed a fruit I had never seen called Pitahaya [pit-uh-hahy-uh] .  The vendor began informing me about this fruit.  

Rich in vitamins and has healing properties. The pulp can be eaten or made into a juice.  Taste good, stains badly, be careful.

The fruit went in my bag, and upon trying it at home, it was pretty good.

The old me would never try something new. The new me wants to experiment and try new things.

How did I become from being a conformist, to wanting to try something new?

It began when I started to read everything I could get my hands on at a later time in my life.

In reading, I dared to be creative.  I began to explore in other areas. I was challenged, I became hungry.

As a youngster, I did not have much interest in reading, until one day I had this desire to write. I began reading and  learning about the craft of writing.

In reading, I discovered what I had missed all along. Life.

Have you ever been afraid to step out in faith to try, do or say something that is out of your comfort zone?

I have many times. I have failed when I tried something new, other times I was surprised.

In order to grow, it is necessary to try new things. I am not talking about going against a moral code, but doing something new and different in your life that will improve you.

Do something that is not on the menu.

Why try something new?

Some reason why you should.

  1. It will cause your mindset to expand,  learn and grow.
  2. You will be able to speak about a topic and hold a decent conversation.
  3. You dispel fear- you find it exciting to step out into the unknown.
  4. You will continue to be inspired and motivated, and boredom will not be an issue in your life.
  5. You may  find something new about yourself, and may be surprised at what you can do.
  6. You will discover you are successful at something.
  7. You will become energized and will find a boost in confidence.
  8. You will discover your strengths and  weaknesses.
  9. When you experiment, you become successful.  

Are you trying to find  something in your life that will satisfy you?  Experiment, step out of your comfort zone!  

I have found  trying something new for the first time can be a bit scary, but afterwards, it becomes an adventure.

Go ahead, give it a shot.  Dare to try to be someone better than you are now.  You won’t regret it.

 

Are you committed to growth?

I remember a challenging phrase I came across that read, “Is your writing an interest or is it a commitment?”  This quote jumped off the page and stayed with me.

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I have been writing on and off for years, and when I tried to get back into it fully, I was stuck. I had this deep desire to write, but nothing was happening.  I knew something was off, and I was committed to finding out what was wrong.  In my search, I broke through.

I have started back up and am energized.

Being committed can apply to many areas of our lives.  If you are committed to Christ and to growing, there are a number of things you can do.  The main thing is prayer, read His word and spend time in His presence.  Also being faithful in your home church and joining cell groups is valuable.

Are you committed to your marriage?  How about  your personal life, to continue learning and growing in areas that may be new to you?

With writing, I am enthusiastic to pursue this walk, career and life journey. It won’t be easy, but I am willing to pay the price.

It’s the same with my relationships, specifically Jesus.   I give credit to Him as the desire to write came from the Lord.
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I continue to learn, grow and change.  A friend once said to me, “The day I stop learning, helping and growing, is the day I’m dead.”

Is there an area in your life that needs to be recommitted, grow, change and learn?

Perhaps it’s a calling you left by the wayside, something you wanted to pursue but allowed fear in, or you just don’t  know how or where  to begin.

Where do you begin?

I challenge you to start right where you are.  Do something to start your journey to success. Take hold of your future,  and soon the pieces to the puzzle will fit and before you know it, you will be on your way.

Some ideas to consider:

    • Read books from those that have gone before you
    • There are a number of online courses that are available for your growth
    • The information you seek is only a click away
    • Change your habits, say no to distractions  (television is a great example)
    • Set boundaries on yourself, learn when to say yes, and when to say no

As the puzzle  begin to take shape, you will be motivated  and encouraged as you see yourself progressing towards your goal.

Go ahead, just start.  What do you have to lose?