I forgive, but I still hurt

Colossians  3:13 Be tolerant with one another and forgive one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you. 


Forgiveness is a commandment in the Bible, and it´s a choice. As believers, we know we must forgive those who have hurt and wronged us, but to be honest it can be difficult.

We know we are to forgive because we have been forgiven, and it´s supposed to bring healing to us, but I still felt pain.

But what happens when we forgive, and still feel that sting in our hearts, like we need to do it again?  I have been there, forgiving the same person year after year because I felt I have not forgiven him. Every time his name surfaced, I felt anger and pain, and my cycle of forgiveness would start all over again.  

I often thought to myself, If I forgave, why do I feel I need to do it again? What I later realized is that I needed inner healing for these painful feelings to go away, because my hurt was not healed.

I did the following steps listed below, and this took away the pain and feeling of unforgiveness. You don´t need a professional for inner healing, you can do this on your own, and it does not take very long.

Pray. Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you and for Jesus to be present.

Go back to the event, feel it and see Jesus in the midst. Ask the Lord what emotions have not been healed from that particular event. Write down the hurt/damaged emotions. Take your time, don´t rush. You may receive more that one emotion.


Ask Jesus to heal the wound in your soul that was caused by the negative emotion, and let Jesus move freely during the event.  If it is a traumatic event, you don´t want to relive it. Just go to the end of the event.


Tell the Lord you receive His healing and ¨see¨  Him healing you.  For me, he was pouring the balm of Gilead on the wound of betrayal, it was powerful!

Next, forgive the person who caused the pain.
Bring the memory back again to your mind, don’t just think about it, feel it and see Jesus.  If there are no emotions coming to the surface, you are free.

Now ask the Lord the show you the truth about this event.  For me, when this certain event happened in my life the Lord showed me a deep frustration this person had at the time, and I just happened to be in the crossway of his fury at the moment.

My emotion was betrayal, and I asked the Lord to replace it, and he did with goodness.

I brought the memory again to check if there were any other emotions that had not been healed, and repeat the process if there are.

After doing this exercise, I finally felt that yes, I have forgiven this person and the hurt was gone. I knew this because I brought the memory up, and had no emotion.

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Be blessed.

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